How to Use Index Cards to Plot a Family History

I’ve heard it preached many times, write for yourself. While this is a lovely thought, it can be very misleading advice. While it is important for you to be emotionally invested in your story, it is unrealistic to only write for yourself, especially if your goal is to get your family to read your ancestor’s stories. You can’t write your family history stories without considering your audience.

You want your stories read after all isn’t that the point of writing them. Therefore, when you choose your subject, how to structure the story and what you include in the story it must all come back to your reader. Will your choices encourage your family to read your stories?

Today, I’ve got five writing tips that demonstrate why you always need to consider your readers when writing your family history stories.

Tip 1. Focus the story on the struggles of one ancestor

Don’t make your story too broad including a lot of ancestors and covering a lifetime of events. The more you focus your narrative on one ancestor and a specific accomplishment in your ancestor’s life the more likely your readers will connect with that ancestor. Concentrate your story on one ancestor and zero in on the struggles that one ancestor faced in his or her life. When you concentrate your story in this manner, you give your reader an opportunity to connect with that ancestor. When the reader connects, the story gets read.

Tip 2. Show the risk involved if your ancestor failed to overcome his struggles.

Think about the choices your ancestor made. What would have happened if your ancestor had made a different decision? What if your ancestor had chosen a different path? What kind of devastation would they have encountered? How would their life have changed? How would your life had been different? When you reveal the risks that your ancestor faced in their lives and convey that in your story, you create tension. Tension is a critical ingredient in any story to keeping the reader engaged. For instance, let’s speculate what risks were involved if your an ancestor hadn’t immigrated? Perhaps, your ancestor would have ended up in the poorhouse, or fighting in the war or remained poor with no opportunities for improving their financial or societal status. Maybe your ancestor would have died in a war or from disease? When you reveal the alternatives, you increase the tension for your readers and make your stories far more appealing. Your readers are likely to stay committed to the end of the story because they want to read how their ancestors succeeded.

Tip 3. Structure your story to show rising tension

When you take the time to arrange your story in such a way that it increases the tension, then you keep your reader tuned in. Often, family historians fall into the pattern of writing a birth to death story about their ancestor.  Don’t fall into this trap. Instead, structure the story around a significant accomplishment that your ancestor achieved. In your story, show how your ancestor overcame obstacles to reach this achievement. This will create what we call rising tension.  Structuring a story with increasing tension will keep your readers interested and turning the pages.

Tip 4. Keep it short and add pictures

We live in the days of immediacy. We want everything fast. The same can be said for reading your family history. Give your readers quick easily digestible and shareable stories. Today’s generation isn’t interested in a 500-page family history. Write short stories about a variety of ancestors to draw in your reader and keep them engaged. Don’t discount what your family likes to read, and how they want to read. What will it take to get them interested? It might mean writing a blog post or short story instead of an epic novel or a dry genealogy. You must be willing to adjust accordingly. Keep it short and throw in a few pictures and you’re more likely to attract them into reading your story.

Tip 5. Keep the content relevant and relatable

The more you can help your readers relate to their ancestors the more likely they are to connect with them and take a further interest in their family history. Keep the content relevant to the times but also try to show how your ancestor’s lives might parallel your readers’ lives today. Consider how your reader can see themselves in your ancestor. How will they relate to them? The more relatable and likeable the ancestor the more engaged the reader.

You can’t dismiss your reader’s likes and needs when it comes to reading their family history stories. When you take the time to learn and write family history stories that entertain and engage your reader you are more likely to find your readers taking a more in-depth interest. If you would like your family to read your family history stories, then you need to keep them top of mind when you write.

Let’s create stories that give you the greatest chance of having them read and enjoyed by your readers.

I’ve been watching  Who Do You Think You Are?  How about you? I enjoy following the celebrities in their journey to discover their ancestors. Now what occurs to me about this show is why do I care about other people’s genealogy. Well, I’m a genealogist, so yes, I am interested. Of course, there is the aspect that they are celebrities. However, to make this show successful the show needs to appeal to a wider audience, and that means there needs to be a great story that captures the viewer’s attention, even non-genealogists.

The same applies to our family history. We want our family to read about their ancestors; we want them to sit up and take an interest. However, our family are not genealogists so we need to appeal to them in a different way than as if we were writing for other genealogists interested in our research.

So perhaps we can learn a little something from the producers of Who Do You Think You Are?  What makes this show so popular? What storytelling lessons can we learn? How can we apply them to our family history writing.

There is a plot – whether you realize it our not, very episode has a plot. The celebrity is on a mission to answer a question about their family history. Each celebrity in their journey faces, obstacles, further questions that they need to overcome in their quest.  However,  there is also the secondary plot, the journey of the ancestor, their story is also playing out for us. In Who Do You Think You Are? both the celebrity and the ancestor faces obstacles, conflicts on their road to their goal.

You should also be structuring your stories in the same manner.  If you’re writing just about your ancestor, then  your story needs to be structured around a struggle to a goal that your ancestor faced. If you’re writing about your pursuit to uncover you ancestor’s life then you must structure your journey in terms of your obstacles in the quest for your answers. I think the easiest way to find the plot is to look for the accomplishments and then work backwards, looking for the obstacles, either those your ancestor faced or you faced in your research.

For Example:

Josh Groban – sets out to learn about his mother’s lineage and traces the trail of his 8x great-grandfather. He discovers a brilliant man who was a deacon, music teacher, and a well-known astronomer. However, Josh finds that his ancestor’s predictions of cataclysmic doom put him in opposition to the church.

Angie Harmon-  On her journey, Angie uncovers the dramatic story of her 5X great-grandfather, who endured hardship and danger as an immigrant coming to America. She discovers that he fought in the American Revolution and risked death for standing his ground.

There is a theme. Every story has a theme and Who Do You Think You Are? does an excellent job of finding a theme and giving us a teaching moment for the celebrity.  It’s important to centre your story around  a theme. Find a focus for the story, an idea that emulates from either your journey or from your ancestor’s life.

For example:

Julie Chen – in Julie’s episode education is a huge theme. Julie uncovers how education greatly influenced her ancestor’s life including her grandfather Lou Gaw Tong, and her great-grandfather, head of the department of education.  Giving Julie a new found appreciation for the great depth in her family history.

Sean Hayes –  Sean’s story centers around the father figure. Sean  is estranged from his father with a troubled past and goes on a quest to discover the root of the problem. Sean’s journey takes him to Chicago where he uncovers the sad details of his grandfather’s early death on skid row. Sean then follows his ancestral trail to Ireland, where court documents show the chaos in the Hayes family runs generations deep. Through Sean’s search, he deepens his understanding of his father and appreciate that he’s broken a turbulent family pattern on his own, perhaps offering Sean, a little more empathy for his father.

We make an emotional connection. I would be hard pressed to say I didn’t cry through my fair share of episodes. Why is that? There are two things at play. The producers have done a beautiful job of bringing the ancestors to life for us. They have given us characters in the celebrity’s ancestor, with hopes and dreams,  failures and successes. It pulls us in emotionally either through our connection with the ancestor or by seeing how the celebrity is connecting to the story. Either way, the producers have used their research to make the ancestors real to the celebrity to the viewers.

It’s important for us to do the same in our own stories. We want to bring our ancestors to life in our stories, giving the readers an opportunity to make an emotional connection with them. In our stories, this is best achieved through characterization. Characterization is a writing tool that helps us to find our ancestor’s personality in our research and bring that personality to the page, the focus of our Workbook Number 2, Authentic Ancestors.

For example:

Julie Chen – From this year’s episode, the producers were able to show us the character of Julie’s grandfather, through his actions  in the war and his commitment to bringing education to his village. We get a very clear understanding of his strengths and his beliefs. Therefore, when Julie visits the school her grandfather built it becomes a very emotional moment for her and the viewer.

Christina Applegate – One of the most emotional episodes in my memory belonged to Christina Applegate. Christina seeks to find the story of her grandmother. The information she uncovers, shows a women who lead a very difficult life and faced great personal struggles. But when they discover an incredible gesture her grandmother makes in providing a final resting place for her son, we truly see a mother’s love.  Christina finds her grandmother’s final resting place and brings her father to visit, he is able to find and reconnect with his mother.

Scenes and Settings bring the story to life for us. In this year’s episodes of  Who Do You Think You Are? we jet off to great locations, like Ireland and China. We watched Angie Harmon walk on the land of her ancestor, Julie Chen tour the school of her grandfather and Sean Hayes visit the court-house where his ancestor was charged. The producers place us in the places where the ancestor’s life played out, where significant events happened.

Scenes and setting offer you the ability to transpose your readers to another place and time. Setting offers your readers details and description so that they time travel, while writing scenes provides your reader the ability to see the events playing out before them on the page.

A main character to focus on.  Notice in every Who Do You Think You Are? episode there is one central character, one ancestor that the producers set their sole focus on. Sure there might be some backstory, a bit about the family tree in general.  But before too long we are pulled into a story about one ancestor and that is where the majority of the story is told. The producers don’t try to tell us too much about a lot of ancestor’s in the celebrity’s tree. They find one ancestor who plays an interesting or pivotal part in the celebrities history and they shape the family history around them.

In our stories, we too need to find that one ancestor. Don’t try to tell every ancestor’s story in one large story. Focus your family history around a main ancestor. Find your protagonist ancestor and tell your family history from their prospective. Authentic Ancestors provides some exercises to help you find your story ancestors.

Social History. The producers make great use of social history to help paint a picture of what was taking place at the time of the celebrities ancestors.  The producers often direct celebrities to social historians who can explain what is happening at the time to get a deeper understanding of their ancestor’s actions.

By exploring the history and social history of the time, you can but your ancestor’s actions into context. You  can get inside their heads and perhaps see the whys behind their decisions and actions. As a family history writer, world, regional and local history along with social history play an important role in shaping your stories and understanding the motivations and stakes behind your ancestor’s actions.

Next week, watch Who Do You Think You Are? through the lens of a writer. Alternatively, catch up on past episodes here. Look for the main character, the theme, the plot, the setting and scenes. Then apply these same principles to your storytelling.